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Rigzby Rollins

No, everyone doesn't hate you...

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Steps into the MRPD shower  grabbing the standard issue luffa and turns to the camera

Hi Folks, 

I wanted to take a moment and reflect openly about a lesson I have recently learned in a few instances and as I look back, I now question how many times this may have happened and lead me wrong.

WTF you talking bout, Rigz? TLDR! GangShit Skrrt. 🙄

 What I'm talking about is those little moments that take place in RP and sometimes outside it. Perhaps someone said something strange, made a decision about change or perhaps they took the magic created in one story and started another elsewhere or with another person. I'm guilty of what comes next. I'm guilty of reacting impulsively thinking one thing is another. Thinking, "why would that do that? Why me? Did they hate me? The logic applies in so many moments. Understanding,  It can be just beyond our reach when we need it most, and frequently we don't know we need it until its too late. Your mind or your heart has already and expertly advised you of the worst case scenario. And like a well qualified self life coach, you have deployed your response, you've lashed back, said something you regret or you've denounced everything about them.

Well...

Bam! Good on you! You showed them! Feels good, right?

Er, or until you find out the hard way that you had it all wrong. Well shit, turns out it wasn't what you thought. The new story was something bold inspired by your part in another. The change and new decisions wasn't to hurt you, it was protecting/challenging/for you even. You thought they hated you, when really they were happy and being creative with something new to share.   Its a simple minded scenario, but through my own recent experiences, and observing so many others I often wonder how many times the damage never had to happen in the first place. Hearts didn't have to break, friendships broken, and stories destroyed over an innocent misunderstanding.

The majority of us who role play are frequently escaping something else in our life. And, I feel its fair to say that the majority of us are well aware of this fact. We immerse ourselves into a virtual world where we can act out in loo or in spite of what we crave most in life be it fantasy or aspiration. I'm realizing more and more that its important to recognize that as much as possible, because it can train our minds to rather than suspect the worst we can help guide ourselves and each other to assume the best of instead. That it might be completely feasible to trust that someone didn't come here just to cause harm, pain or to be cruel. 

Role-play is personal, where we come from in it is a lot about who we are, fantasize to be, or need escape from. We feel and see things immensely differently because of it. Lets set aside that fact that we are a melting pot of language and culture differences as well. I can think back to my moments, had I taken the time to assume the best rather than the worst I could have protected some well cherished bonds. Times I could have elevated a story into something epic rather than bring it down to the ground. Times I could have seen a moment of need or a chance to challenge myself and others that were lost from quick minded reacting.

Ask questions my friends, ask before you think, ask before you feel if that's possible? Ask if what you are feeling already is rightly placed. Chances are, if it hurts, there could be a disconnect. Ask... ask and take the chance to risk investing in someone for a even a moment because you might just surprise yourself; they might surprise you. It's worth saving from a regret later or protecting the loss of another person you will never see again. Maybe that person being a bit of a savage has absolutely no idea and had the intention of something great. I can say I wish I was better at this, I'm pretty good at making those kind of mistakes.  Wish I had asked in those moments. 

Anyways, shower thought complete for now. Happy Role-playing. 

Hangs up the soapy luffa and steps away from the camera whistling the tune of a piano

- Credits roll - 

 

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